Psychiatry defines a psychopath as a person suffering from antisocial personality disorder and shows patterns of manipulation and violence towards others. So it’s not necessarily a serial killer; it can also be someone who psychologically or physically abuses another person. There are some warning signs for women when they are dating a psychopath.… although it must be said that psychopathic women also exist.
1- They are charming, attractive and make you feel very special
For over a decade, Maddy Anholt had relationships with psychopathic men without realizing it, so she wrote a book called How to Leave Your Psychopath (How to leave your psychopath) that pretends to be a kind of manual to escape from toxic relationships.
Anholt points out that the first warning sign that you are facing a psychopath is that they are more charming and attractive than average and they are willing to learn everything necessary to win you over, as they are masters of manipulation.
“They can become whatever you need, because they are the best actors in the world,” Anholt wrote in an article for the sun about your experience. “This is called love bombing. Love bombing could also show up as bombarding you with endless gifts and expensive weekends or flattering yourself. But the facade falls off quickly, ”she warns and ensures that all psychopaths follow the same cycle with three phases: distinguishing their“ victim ”, devaluing it and finally discarding it.
2- Then they make you feel that everything is in your head
Once you have fallen into their networks, a psychopath will stop doing the things that make you feel special and when you signal the change will tell you that you suffer from paranoia. It will gradually make your world smaller by indirectly isolating you from your friends and family. So first they’ll make you feel like the best, but then they’ll get bored, while you’ll feel like a whirlwind is passing over you.
3- They lie compulsively
They have no qualms about lying, manipulating and getting away with it. Be very careful if you have noticed that that charming person lies all the time, even if they seem like minor lies.
4- They make you be alert all the time so as not to disturb them
At this point, making an effort not to disturb their moods may be a priority for you. Their “soft” comments hide harsh criticism like: “You’re so much prettier without makeup” or “it’s great that you got a promotion, but maybe someone deserved it more”.
“Your self-esteem will start to erode. You will get used to that feeling of tiptoeing around their moods”, explains the author who calls this stage a “devaluation phase” in which the relationship can last weeks, months, years or decades.
5- They feel above the rules
The ego of a psychopath does not allow being told what to do or how to do things. If they react angrily to a suggestion from you or if they disregard rules or laws, shine a red light.
6- They have trouble controlling their anger
Their outbursts of anger are of such magnitude that they can even attack others or you psychologically, verbally or physically. If they’re aggressive once, they’ll be aggressive later, so set limits and don’t go easy on them.
“I spent almost a decade jumping from one controlling relationship to another. When I hit rock bottom, I was soulless and almost lifeless,” Anholt recounted. He pointed out that the only way to get out of a relationship with a psychopath is to learn to be happy alone and to seek therapeutic help to resolve patterns.
“You deserve soft, healthy and genuine love. And until that happens, you better find it within yourself before you start looking outside. Seriously, stay away from dating apps,” she concludes.